I appreciate the people who visit my blog, no matter if you're just a silent reader or just leave your mark in the Chatbox. The growing numbers on the stats really would make my day. But the one I'll always be grateful of are those who leave kind words in the comment section. They just give me the stronger feeling of wanting to blogging since I know there's someone who actually read my blog and loved it. I always reply each comment to show that I appreciate them but I think it's not enough. Well, call me lame but I just discovered the 'Top Commentators' widget, yeay. I added it in the sidebar, in the hope of people who visit my blog would click your profile and visit your blog too. Go hit them profiles, readers!
Back to the main topic, first of all, it's not my sibling who is getting married but it's my cousin, whom I cherished as a brother of my own. The family called him Abang Long. We both are at the same age and we're the oldest grandchild of the family of our arwah atok.
Typical of being the same age, we got compared a lot in term of our study results (he's better at studying), our attitude and now it's marriage. Honestly, the first time I heard that he's getting married, I had emotions conflict and 'sincerely happy' wasn't one of them. I've always thought I'd be the first one to get married out of the two of us, because hey, I'm a girl and girls usually get married first.
I don't know how to put the feelings I had in words but 'the burden' of getting married became heavier since people around me kept asking "kau bila pulak?" and man I hate those words. It's maybe safe to say that I was jealous because I thought I should be the first one handing him the invitation to my wedding, not the other way around.
As we Muslims know that jodoh, rezeki dan ajal merupakan ketentuan yang ditulis di Luh Mahfuz so who am I to judge what has been written by Him, right? Plus, I do think that it's still too early for me to get married and I still want to enjoy the freedom I have for being single so I just simply ignore the "kau bila pulak?" questions.
And I finally can say that I'm sincerely happy for him. He's getting married at the end of January, so please send him good and kind wishes. Congrats on your marriage news Abang Long, can't wait for a baby next, I'll become an aunt! Teehee.
Till then,
Lya.
Alhamdulillah..dah tak lama tu...moga Allah permudahkan urusan pernikahan tersebut...amin.. :)
ReplyDeletethank you for the wish!
DeleteI have someone that always been compared too.. It's just a non-blood-related girl and she is daughter of my parents best friends..And they always compared us and she's always the best one.. -.-"
ReplyDeleteSo, I totally understand when it comes to this matter.. Your jodoh would arrive sooner and later.. I totally hate these 'kepochi' aunts whom keep asking just when to get married and I would answer, "Papa tak suruh kawen, papa bagi kawen,anis kawen la.." xD
I actually never thought of getting married early but the 'burden' then came when abang long announced his upcoming marriage. But I think such feeling shouldn't exist in the first place kan? haha
Deletei don't receive the deadly "kau bila pulak?" question yet (coming soon probably T__T) but i can relate somehow, whatever it is just enjoy whats in our plate now :DD
ReplyDeletecompletely agree. just follow the flow, we'll manage :)
DeleteI'm glad that I live miles away from my family so I don't receive the famous when you're getting married question.
ReplyDeleteTake things slow. Jodoh'll come when you least expected it
jodoh masing dah tertulis, all we have to do is just wait for it :)
DeleteOmg, i am there as top commentators? I dont even realize it. Btw, your writing is such a pleasant reading. I always laughed it out when i got the deadly question. Usually, i would ask them back if they have any rich guy to match me with. But i dont really get asked much. Idk, never felt like want to kahwin lagi pon.
ReplyDeletethank you for being one of my top commentators, I really appreciate it and thank you for your compliment on my writing, I honestly didn't expect it.
DeleteI sometimes answered such questions in sarcastic manner too coz it's tiresome faking a smile and stuff XD
Congratulations for your brother & pasangan.
ReplyDeletethank you :)
DeleteI feel you. Being compared bothered me too much! I have three cousins of the same age and those 'kepochi' aunts would always have something to say about us. Just why? All of us have our own abilities and disabilities, right? I hope I won't be ask that 'kau bila lagi' question when I'm getting older.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, congratulations to your brother and his wife-to-be. May Allah bless them :)
I know right. We should just be be compared to our old self instead.
DeleteThank you for the wish :)
Luckily i am in a position where my family doesn't pushed me to get married but look at my age ๐๐ Haha. But i am still happy being single
ReplyDeleteYea, let's enjoy being single as long as we can. Haha
Deleteya, im featured!~
ReplyDeleteluls
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thanks for being featured XD
Deletegood luck and congrats to your brother..
ReplyDeletethank you !
DeleteDekat dah date abang sepupu nak kahwin. Semoga semua berjalan lancar dan dipermudahkan urusan :)
ReplyDeleteOrang lain tidak akan pernah berhenti untuk tanya soalan seperti yang lya cakap. Just ignore them. And follow the flow. Insyallah, one day akan bertemu jodoh :)
Siqah dulu soalan sama macam lya. Sekarang bila dah kahwin, soalan lain pula ditanya. Sama je lya. Sambil senyum, jawab dengan tenang. hihi. Kita takde hak nak menghalang orang bertanya cuma kita harap orang lain faham yang jodoh dan rezeki di tangan Allah. Kita berusaha, doa dan tawakal saja <3
betul tu cuma lemas jugakla bila asyik soalan yang sama keluar especially bila abg sepupu ni nak kahwin, sebaya dgn lya :(
DeleteENGKO BILA LAGI??
ReplyDeleteat least 7thn lagi haha
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